6 Reasons Why Personal Power Helps Reduce Negative Thinking

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Are you in a place of hopelessness, self-doubt, or second guessing yourself? Is your negative thinking causing problems in your relationships, avoiding going out and being around other people, or maybe you are not making the efforts to do the things you used to do?  It sometimes seems so much easier to stay trapped in thinking negatively about yourself or your life situation because it really does not take much effort. I think we tend to put a lot of pressure on ourselves and what we think others want from us. As a result, we tend to think we are not good enough and naturally go into fear based mode. When was the last time you tried to make yourself feel better? I am sure you noticed that it takes much more effort and energy to work on feeling better and recognizing the good things in life. However, the trick is to start one day at a time. If you think too much about what is wrong with you or you keep blaming yourself for not “getting better,” in my opinion, that just makes it more challenging to create positive thinking, attitudes, belief systems, and intentions.  These things are supposed to help you grow in ways emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. I met this elderly woman last week while I was browsing her yarn store. She had so much life in her eyes and she presented with a lot of spirit. After talking to her for a while, she told me that when she wakes up in the morning, she has two choices. She can choose to be happy for the day or be miserable. She asked me, “What choice do you think I picked today?” We laughed. It made me think how lucky and blessed I was to had walked into her store and meet her. She brought me so much wisdom and made me realize I have choices in how I want to think and feel for the rest of my day. Even though I may have heard such ideas before, it reminds me of how simple my life can be, and that I have choices that I feel are within my control. So, why not start today with creating intentions that are fulfilling rather than feeling empty? What is holding you back? Start bringing into your consciousness what is or is no longer serving a purpose in your life. Here are my 6 reasons why personal power can reduce negative thinking

1. When I feel like I have choices, I feel more relaxed and I have a sense of freedom. When I feel free, I am more likely to think creatively.

2. When I am creative, I enjoy spending time alone and I feel less distracted. I may have music playing in the background which only enhances my creativity and positive awareness. Just in that moment in time, I get lost and I forget about the negative things in life.

3. My personal power reminds me that I am lovable and that I am Love. Love is so important in my life and without feeling a sense of Self Love, I can get lost and trapped in negative thinking. When I resonant in the abundance of Love, I can accomplish anything!

4. Freedom is a limitless sense of time and space. Why restrict yourself and your potential? Gaining a deeper understanding of freedom and free will, you will see that you are in control of your life and where you want to fit in it.

5. Self-awareness helps to bring mindfulness into your daily living. This will help you tap into your senses to promote growth as a person and awareness of your emotions, thoughts, and feelings. Bringing you back to center. Being present in the moment.

6. Personal empowerment will give you the sense of being a leader instead of a follower. Do what you feel is right! Create your own ideas! Do what makes you feel good!

I wish you luck and success! Let today be the day you share your stories of personal power…


Why Practice Patience? 5 Tips to Help Reduce Your Stress

freeimage-2452913-webDo you find yourself getting more impatient with people, places, and things? Are you impulsively reactive and unconsciously making sarcastic comments, or saying something mean to a loved one or stranger just to release some of this tense and impatient energy? Has anyone told you that you have a problem with patience? We all lose our patience at some point in our lives, but first recognizing the symptoms of being impatience may be a good place to start.

Some examples:

  • Feeling tense in your muscles.
  • Tone is getting louder or is sarcastic.
  • Feeling anxious or nervous.
  • Yelling, screaming, or angry feelings.
  • Teeth clenching, maybe fists tightening.
  • Shortness of breath. Shallow breath.
  • Rushing yourself or moving too fast.
  • Impulsive and reactive responses.

If these examples sound familiar to you, or if you are tired of losing your patience, and maybe how it is affecting your life, there is hope for you and the benefits to practicing patience! I have 5 tips to help you to manage the symptoms of being impatient so that you can avoid any further damage to your personal relationships, work environment, spiritual growth, emotional state, or health problems. You may notice others around you who will sense a shift in your attitude, behavior, and outlook. This will hopefully give you a more peaceful, grateful, and mindfulness experience!

1. Take a personal time out. Begin to use breath work in your daily or almost daily habit. Mindfulness breathing will make remarkable physiological, psychological, and spiritual shifting in your days to come. It helps to slow you down and opens your heart chakra to be more patient with yourself and others.

2. Mindfulness meditation. Specifically on reducing tension in the body. Again this technique will help you to sense more control of yourself and to be less reactive and impulsive.

3. Slow down. When you are juggling multiple things at once, like being a parent and having to financially support your family; you have problems saying “no” to people; or being a perfectionist, than you have to recognize your emotional limits and your authentic potential so that you can manage your stress level more effectively. Surrender to allowing others to help you and maybe delegate or let go of responsibilities that are causing you to be overwhelmed and contributing to becoming impatient. Try not to set yourself up for unhealthy habits!

4. Listening with a compassionate heart. You may lose yourself at times in all the things that need to get done, so you may tend to be short with people or you just are screaming in your mind to get out of there! However, not being present or in the moment you loose out on creating meaningful relationships, or lessons that are brought to you for a reason. So next time you find yourself wanting to bolt and get out of conversations, just focus on a relaxed and deep breath and use empathetic listening and having a compassionate ear as someone might really need you at that moment! You will feel better that you got out of your stuff and focussed your energy on something or someone else.

5. Find activities to reduce anger Your build up of anger, can cause you to be less patient and forgiving. Finding outlets or activities to reduce your anger can help you in the long run. Some ideas might be, running, journaling, watching movies, talking out your feelings, painting, or getting a chakra treatment to balance the mind, body, and soul.

I hope you find these 5 tips to help you reduce your stress level and practice more patience within yourself and others. Would love to hear any additional ideas!

Balance the Mind & Body: 10 Tips to Manage Those Busy Days

freeimage-1196682-highAre you the type of person who always has an overwhelming and busy schedule? Do you ever wonder why your life feels unmanageable at times? Whether you are a top executive of a busy firm, school teacher, working mother or father, business owner, or college student there is always time to recharge and replenish the mind, body, and soul. From time to time or maybe habitually, you tend to get busy into your own world, and then tend to forget the bigger things in life…like self-care! If you have not already heard this before, or maybe you just need a refresher to bring more harmony into your life, some of the reasons for your unmanageable schedule could be the result of 1) Boundaries issues-like you’re a “Yes” person. Maybe it’s hard for you to say “no” to people or things so you end up with too many things on your plate. 2) Perfectionistic thinking. Your belief system is that everything has to be perfect in everything you do. This causes wasted energy and time and spills into your other tasks or duties. 3) Procrastination. Maybe you are putting off talking to your boss about the most recent project or writing that 20 page paper assignment. Instead you exert your energy on something more pleasing, like surfing the internet, skimming through the Ikea magazine, or one of my favorites, Every Day with Rachel Ray Magazine. In the end, procrastination just delays the inevitable and really does not invoke positive, productive energy. 4) You are not organized or use time management effectively. Today, we have various choices to help us out with assigning our tasks and duties, and at looking at our time management. Whether it is a paper or digital calendar (i.e. Google Calendar), these tools can illustrate how much time you have to manage those busy days! Eventually, helping you to be accountable and taking control of your life. You may have your own reasons, but these are just a few of the common reasons that people feel their lives are overwhelming.

To help you further venture into self-care and wellness, here are 10 tips to manage those busy days. Some of the tips may require you to take an extended amount of time out of your schedule…it will be worth it! If you are already thinking, “Where am I going to get that extra time?” I encourage you to take a few deep breathes. Then tap into using the right side of the brain which will help you to be clear minded, use of your creativity, and your intuition to solve this dilemma.

1) Retreats. If you Google or do an internet search for retreats in your area or just a drive a way, you may be surprised that they exist. There are other like-minded people who want get away and retreat. Specifically, retreats that focus on self love, mindfulness, meditation, and nature! Or, for a more creative twist, why not create your own one day retreat with you and your friends? Send out an Evite (www.evite.com) or on Facebook an invitation that is for you and your friends to get together at the park and make it a potluck, with the intention of doing something relaxing (like sound healing opener).

2) Take a Bath. Include in your tub, Espon salt to soothe the muscles or a refreshing and cleansing aromatherapy bath. This will prepare you for the night. Give yourself the permission to stop worrying about the busy things you need to either finish or still do while you are in the bath relaxing. Lighting candles (scented with lavender is a great idea) can also set the mood for relaxation.

3) Connect to nature. Get your sneakers on, set your iPod or mp3 to some music that will help you stay present to your intention to balance the mind and body while you are out in nature. Even walking at the park or taking a hike for 20 minutes will get you cleared away from the busy life. It really starts with allowing yourself to enjoy the peaceful time in nature and allowing for clearing of the mind to naturally occur.

4) Cook. Great way to be with yourself and just experiment with food. It is all about you and you can manage how you want your meal to turn out at your own pace and direction. Staying mindful of your sense of smell as you pick up the aromas of the flavors from the food. Eventually you will notice a shift in your emotional state and can uplift your mood.

5) Sponteneity. Imagine or sense your playful, childlike, or goofy self and Taking a trip to Disneyland or some theme park can be a great way to tap into adventurous self. This shift in energy and time spent, can shift your perception on what is important in your life, including how important you are to yourself.

6) Creativity. Tap into the right side of the brain and get your creative juices flowing. Allow free writing or just be mindful of the words you jot down in your journal/diary. It can really bring awareness into your life about letting go of some of this busy day-to-day stuff. There are many other creative outlets like, painting, drawing, playing music, knitting, cooking, and so on. You have choices!!

7) Read. Reading is a great way to focus your attention on something that is not about your busy life. Maybe reading on how to plan a trip, a retreat, or something that gives you a break from your busy life. Reading something empowering or positive stories can also shift your energy and mindset of peace and direction.

8) Massage or bodywork. Make an appointment to get a full-body Swedish massage if you want something gentle and relaxing. Other favorites, Reflexology, Thai Massage (a more deeper massage), Hot Stone Massage, Craniosacral therapy, or Polarity therapy. Body work empowers your inner journey to heal and is a healthy way to manage a busy day.

9) Sound HealingYou can attend a class, group, or an individual session with a sound healer. The use of Crystal Singing bowls, Tibetan bowls, Tuning Forks, Gongs, Voice, and other instruments are set with an intention to help harmonize whatever is bothering you, strengthening your spirituality, and bringing you to a higher level of consciousness. The sound and vibrations help to heal and balance the mind, body, and spirit.

10) Body Movement. Take a yoga or dance class to help you become more connected to your mind, body, and soul. Stretching and movement can help to promote relaxation, stress management, strengthening, and a happier and peaceful mood.

I do invite any personal experiences and anything you would like to share! Good luck!!